As we draw nearer to the wedding, just 8 days away now, my friend Jo brings us the next letter in the To The Bride series. Tonight, she’ll cover the importance of quality time. This is perfect for us because Cole’s job keeps him away from home so often that we really strive to make the most of the time that we do have together.
Jo lives in and loves her home town of Houston. She is a project manager by day and a gal that is always looking for a laugh and a creative outlet (i.e. blogger) in her spare time. She has a love of travel, is fond of a bold red lip, and will always stop by the cheese board at a party. She met her husband during an awkward senior thesis class in college and was immediately thankful that he had a tendency for procrastination in signing up for classes, otherwise they would have never met. It was fireworks from the very beginning for them and 5 years later they are happily married with 3 fur-babies and a tendency to make up songs for their pets. They are always looking for a new adventure.
This is her letter.
To the Bride,
Friend, as a newlywed going on a year and a half of marriage, my best advice to you would be to always make time for each other. Brandon and I have very busy work lives and throwing a blog into that adds another element of busy as you know. But the one thing that I love that we do, and that I feel has always made a difference, is to make sure you save a day every week just for yourselves. Keep dating. While I know I haven’t been married long, I feel like this is a lesson Brandon and I learned hard and fast. I know this seems very obvious as something you should do, but choosing to keep this a focus in your lives together actually takes more work than some realize. I’m sure you and your love already do this, I would just encourage you to keep going. Whether it’s a snuggly night in ordering pizza and binging Netflix or a night out to your favorite sushi place with a nightcap at your neighborhood bar, always plan for time for yourselves and the laughter and love will keep coming.
A dear friend of ours, shared this beautiful hand blessing with us as she married us, that “These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever. These are the hands that will work alongside yours and together, build a future and a home. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years. These are the hands that will hold you and comfort you in times of grief and uncertainty. These are the hands that will wipe the tears from your eyes, both of sorrow and of joy. These are the hands that will hold your family together as one. These are the hands that will cradle your children. These are the hands that will give you strength and will help you fight when you feel as though you cannot do it on your own. And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and knotted with age, will still be reaching for yours.”
A love like this, the love you and your future husband have for each other, will need nurturing. Life happens and time gets away from you and you will have both amazing weeks but also not so great weeks. Consistently making time just for you two brings the focus back to your relationship and gives you a chance to let loose and nurture your love no matter what else might be going on in your lives. It’s the little things like this and the small daily signs of love and affection that help you get through the challenges that life brings.
I’d also add further, that this time is even more important if you are fighting,in a funk, or (relative to here and now) during the holidays. It’s a great reminder that you are choosing each other and putting your relationship first by still making time for yourselves during the not so great times or when everyone is demanding time from you around the holidays. I’m not going to lie, for someone as stubborn as myself, the quality time during a fight has been a real challenge. But it has been a challenge that we work on together and has made a difference. And the time set aside around the holidays has allowed us to start our own family traditions, which we cherish.
Congrats on your marriage and enjoy every moment friend. Best of luck in love!
Thank you Jo for sharing these beautiful words from your ceremony with us.